As I sit quietly in “my room” at my dad’s cabin a few
minutes before midnight, I don’t have to strain my ears to hear the (attempting
to be quiet) muffled giggles and chatter from the room adjacent mine, where my
sixteen year old daughter and her BFF are staying. I have once already asked them to try and at
least giggle quieter so as to not wake up the grandparents trying to sleep
upstairs.
What is it about girls that
allows them to talk and giggle for hours, without becoming bored?
Boys are so different. They will play video games for hours
next to each other without much talk at all.
They will work, play sports, or even sit in a boat and fish without
getting into any deep discussions. They may converse about what they are doing
at the time, or what part of the lake they should go to next, but not much
else. The difference truly amazes me.
Things don’t seem to change much with age. I will still sit
for hours and chat with my girlfriends, now about different things than in our
youth. Whereas then, we may have talked about boys we liked, our
favorite bands or our futures… now, it’s usually about our kids, our husbands,
jobs, bills and family. Yet, still… we
have giggling fits, hysterical bouts of laughter, hearty belly laughs, tears streaming down our faces, all the while creating memories and loving the moment.
We, as women are naturally more emotionally
driven, with an innate need to connect on more of an intimate level with our
girlfriends. We tend to sit closer, unafraid of human contact (unlike our male counterpart) when it comes to our friends.
We need to feel heard, understood and validated, which is
why we need our soul sisters. Sometimes the pressure of life is just so much
that an hour or two away talking over coffee, a drink, or while on a walk with
a friend is worth more than an hour with a well versed therapist.
I must admit, I do enjoy going out with a group of friends every
now and then to go dancing or to a show; that is always enjoyable. I feel though that I reap a greater benefit
spending time with one or two friends, hanging out; eating, relaxing, talking
and of course, giggling.
Girlfriends know that the best therapy is giggle therapy.
Thank you, and be blessed~ Geli
